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I recently read an article with a new study conducted by the University of Utah suggesting that hating your ex after a breakup makes you feel better.< The study involved 65 undergrads who recently ended relationships that lasted more than four months (which, in college, could feel more like a century). Researchers found that people who seemed to have strong negative feelings about their ex immediately after the breakup were less likely to be depressed.
Now, I personally think this research is hardly qualitative, nor is it full-proof. It appears to be more of a speculation or generalization than anything (perhaps even commonsensical).
I don’t particularly think that “hating your ex” after a break up will provide any more contentment than perhaps indulging in a tub of Ben n Jerry’s cookie dough icecream. People have different mechanisms of dealing with situations. They behave in a manner suitable for them to prevent themselves from succumbing to a point where they become completely and utterly miserable. So naturally, these mechanisms (including the exertion of strong negative feelings), as commonsensical as it seems..are probably going to be (more) effective in preventing one from submitting to a severe state of depression; [it definitely beats crying and sulking in your room while your virulent depressive state corrodes you from the inside-out.] I’ve tried the hating thing….it did nothing for me than make me feel all the more wretched. However, due to my lack of interest in discussing past/failed relationships of any sort, I will simply say this..
People get over break ups; perhaps they never fully get over the fact that they were wrong to let someone go (and wonder what could have been; or should have been ), but most people move on..
I also choose to believe that people break up for good reason. If it was meant to be, obstacles would be overcome, problems would be discussed, resolutions would be made….and both parties would be willing to work things out (easier said than done of course). However, people who get into petty arguments and choose to break up over benign issues, only verifies their lack of commitment to each other. Engaging in constant disagreements also elicit incompatibly as well.
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